For many of us, December rushes by in a blur of holiday merrymaking and gift-giving, end-of-year invoicing and accounting, and hasty planning for the year ahead. In the rush, the thoughtful year-end reflection we might have hoped for often doesn’t happen.
That’s a missed opportunity. Reflection doesn’t have to be complicated, though. Here’s a simple end-of-year exercise to help you process the year, stay aligned with your goals, and move forward with intention.
Year in Review
First, remind yourself what actually happened this year. It’s easy to fall prey to recency bias, focusing on the last few weeks and forgetting earlier events. We also tend to fixate on where we fell short—goals unrealized, tasks unfinished, issues unresolved. These linger in our minds precisely because they remain incomplete. What we often overlook, though, is what we’ve already achieved.
To get a more accurate picture, use your phone’s camera roll, online calendar, journals, work self-evaluations, and social media accounts to reacquaint yourself with the full year. Keep this light and stress-free. I often rediscover dinner parties and weekend trips I’d forgotten, or reflect on time with family or work projects that felt all-consuming earlier in the year. There’s no rigid process here, just a deliberate stroll through the past year, noting what stands out. If it’s helpful, make a few notes along the way.
Three Questions
Next, ask yourself three questions, each of which calls for three answers. The rule of three keeps the exercise simple, efficient, and easy to revisit year after year.
1. What are the three best things I did for myself this year?
This question helps you examine how you prioritized your own well-being. How quickly or slowly you arrive at your answers can be revealing in itself. Asking this question first also sends an important signal that self-care is the foundation for everything that you do.
