Beartooth lead singer Caleb Shomo’s wife, Fleur Shomo, is breaking her silence after the rocker came out as a “proudly gay man.”
“Not really sure how to start this cause does anything even need to be said? But I guess I’ll just dive right in,” Fleur wrote via Instagram on Saturday, May 23. “The past few months have been a very disorientating and hurtful time to navigate. For both of us. But I will always want to love, protect and support Caleb. I have cared more about his well being over the years than anything else in the world.”
She continued, “To see the confusion and pain he went through and the highs and lows and wanting to help but not knowing how. You never want anything more for your person than for them to just be ok. You also ask yourself constantly if you’re a bad person for wondering wtf this means for your world & the anger you also feel. I am the only person that is having to deal with the duality of this situation. To support him whilst losing everything has been incredibly hard to figure out. You can love and support your person through the hardest time in their life, whilst also be completely demolished & lose yourself at the same time.”
On Saturday, Caleb — who has been the lead singer of the alternative metalcore band since 2012 after leaving the crabcore band Attack Attack! — came out as gay on Saturday after fans speculated about his sexuality online.
“There has been a lot of speculation surrounding my personal life as of late and I feel compelled to set the record straight before it affects those I love any further. I am a proudly gay man,” he wrote via Instagram. “This is something I’ve been unpacking and reckoning with in my life for quite some time now. It’s been difficult to navigate the feelings surrounding the subject and figure out what to do with this fact.”
The singer added, “When it comes to my art/Beartsooth, I have always strived to chase who I am in the deepest part of my soul from album to album. As you could gather if you’ve followed the band at all in the earlier years, there are 4 very self deprecating albums about exploring my religious upbringing, depression, self hatred, and hopelessness. I am grateful for all these albums, yet feel embarrassed at times that I wouldn’t allow myself to really dig up the roots for so long.”
The post was the first from Caleb after he deleted his Instagram account in March following the release of the band’s new single “Free” from their upcoming album Pure Ecstasy. Along with the single, the singer debuted a new look that prompted Atilla frontman Chris Fronzak to make a homophobic remark. (Fronzak later apologized.)
In her public statement following her husband’s announcement, Fleur touched on the 14 years of marriage she shared with the singer while urging fans to continue to support her husband. Her remarks were also accompanied by a video of the pair dancing in a living room in front of a television.
“Our nearly 14yrs of marriage was wonderful and full of so much fun, adventure & love. Nobody will know anything about our marriage like we do. And no one can ever truly know what depths of love exist between two people unless they are those people,” she continued. “I already miss it & my husband more than anything. Our story was a good one. And now it’s done.”
She added, “I hope anyone in the world going through this finds hope & courage & I hope the fans can continue to support Caleb. For now I’m going to keep focusing on what I can control & continue living my life trying to achieve what I want to achieve. And if I keep saying hi to as many dogs as possible along the way, then I’m sure things will slowly get better, day by day, piece by small piece, bird by bird.”
