Meghan Markle’s royal wedding looked like something out of a fairytale, but according to a new book, the signs that her life inside the monarchy would unravel may have been there all along. In “Divide & Rule,” author Catherine Mayer argues Meghan’s eventual exit from royal life was not entirely shocking in hindsight, but rather the result of a deep cultural mismatch between the Duchess of Sussex and the institution she married into.
The former “Suits” actress entered the Royal Family in 2018 alongside Prince Harry, with many hoping the marriage would modernize the monarchy. As the family’s first biracial member and an outspoken feminist, Meghan appeared to symbolize change.
But Mayer suggests the very traits that initially made Meghan seem like a breath of fresh air may have also made royal life impossible to sustain. “How did the dream crumble?” Mayer asks, arguing that Meghan’s differences ultimately “would count against her.”
Markle Was ‘Too Different’ For Palace Life, Author Suggests
According to Mayer, one of the biggest signs Meghan may have struggled as a royal was simply who she already was before she met Harry. Unlike other women who married into the monarchy, Meghan had spent years building her own career, public image, and platform.
Long before becoming the Duchess of Sussex, Meghan openly shared opinions on lifestyle, fashion, politics, and activism through her now-defunct blog, The Tig. Mayer argues that Meghan’s personality, ambitious, independent, and outspoken, never naturally aligned with the traditional expectations placed on senior royals. The author even points to Meghan’s admiration for “She-Ra, Princess of Power” as an early sign she valued independence and agency.
Before meeting Harry, Meghan once identified with the fictional heroine because she represented strength and self-determination, qualities Mayer suggests were difficult to reconcile with palace expectations. Even after announcing her engagement, Meghan made clear she did not view joining the monarchy as giving up who she was.
“I don’t see it as giving anything up. I just see it as a change. It’s a new chapter, right?” Meghan said during her engagement interview. At the time, the comments sounded hopeful. In hindsight, Mayer suggests they may have foreshadowed the friction to come.
California Culture And Palace Life Were Never A Natural Match
Mayer also argues Meghan’s California upbringing may have made palace culture especially difficult to navigate. The book describes California as a place where emotional openness, ambition, self-expression, and even public vulnerability are embraced, a sharp contrast to the famously reserved traditions of the British monarchy.
That disconnect reportedly surfaced in subtle but revealing moments. Meghan previously recalled feeling surprised by Prince William and Princess Kate’s reaction to her casual nature. “They came over for dinner, I remember I was in ripped jeans, and I was barefoot,” Meghan once shared. “I was a hugger. I’ve always been a hugger. I didn’t realize that is really jarring for a lot of Brits.”
According to Mayer, interactions like these underscored Meghan’s difficulty adapting to what the author describes as “Planet Windsor,” the rigid, highly structured world of royal protocol.
Prince Harry Compared Royal Life To ‘An Unending Truman Show’
Complicating matters further, even Harry has acknowledged how difficult royal life can be for outsiders to understand. In the Sussexes’ Netflix series, the Duke of Sussex described royal life as “this surreal state, this unending Truman Show.”
Harry also highlighted just how unusual palace customs can feel to someone entering the family from the outside. “How do you explain that you bow to your grandmother?” he previously mused.
According to Mayer, no amount of Googling or preparation could have fully prepared Meghan for the reality of royal life, one involving relentless scrutiny, limited privacy, palace aides, and strict traditions.
Why Meghan Markle Could Never Be The ‘Perfect Royal’
The book ultimately argues that Meghan was never likely to succeed by following the same path as Princess Kate. While Catherine, Princess of Wales, is described as someone who perfected the traditional royal role, Mayer suggests Meghan never could have comfortably embraced the same level of restraint, even if she wanted to.
Instead, Meghan continued to value emotional openness and authenticity, something that became increasingly clear during a 2019 royal tour of South Africa. When asked how she was coping, Meghan candidly admitted the experience had taken a toll. “Thank you for asking, because not many people have asked if I’m OK,” she said at the time. “It’s not enough to just survive something, right? Like, that’s not the point of life. You’ve got to thrive, you’ve got to feel happy.”
For Mayer, moments like those revealed the deeper divide at the center of Meghan’s royal story, a California-born public figure trying to navigate an institution built on tradition, restraint, and silence.
In hindsight, the fairytale may have always been heading toward a very different ending.
