Jennifer Lopez is opening up about breakups two years after her divorce from actor Ben Affleck. The A-lister’s relationship woes have made headlines over the last two decades, and now, she’s getting candid about them like never before. Speaking on the “Subway Takes” podcast, the New Yorker said she’s not dismayed by her breakups. Instead, she said they only fuel her and encourage her to be her best self.
On the June 30 episode of the “Subway Takes” show, Lopez said she doesn’t believe breakups mean “failure.” She said that she instead sees them as a “launchpad into your next best self.”
“We should have a party when we break up. People should say, ‘You broke up? Congratulations.’ Because one, you made a decision. Two, it was probably the best thing for everybody,” Lopez added.
According to the “Louboutins” singer, people who are being dumped are the real “winners,” while those going around “breaking hearts” are “losers.”
Jennifer Lopez Says There’s Too Much To Learn From Heartbreaks To Stay Sad
Lopez has had her fair share of public breakups; however, those have never kept the singer down. She said that heartbreak has only ever taught her new things about herself.
“I just feel like the biggest growth spurts I’ve had emotionally, mentally, psychologically have always come from a heartbreak. And that’s not just in romantic relationships, that’s in work heartbreaks, all of it,” she said. “It’s the only time you dig. You’re like, ‘What the f-ck happened? How do I do this? Why do I keep doing this? Or why didn’t that happen? What could I have done better?’ You change yourself.”
Jennifer Lopez Doesn’t ‘Discriminate’ Against Men
Regarding who she could see herself with, Lopez said there isn’t a single archetype.
“I don’t discriminate. I like skinny guys. I like a little chunk around the middle. I like beards. I like clean-shaven. It doesn’t matter. I like the person inside,” she revealed.
Over the years, Lopez has been linked with Cris Judd, Marc Anthony, and most recently, Affleck, whom she officially divorced in January 2025.
According to a previous report from The Blast, Lopez’s split from Affleck was much needed, as a source close to the entertainer said that it allowed her to get back to a happy place.
“She’s much happier now. Everyone has noticed the change. There’s a new carefree energy about her,” they shared.
Affleck Opened Up About His Split From Lopez In A New Interview
Affleck and Lopez’s split garnered significant attention, as the pair had also been engaged in the early 2000s before calling things off.
During a previous interview, Affleck got candid about his downfalls with the “Enough” actress, admitting that they are two very different people.
“My temperament is to be a little bit more reserved and private than hers,” he shared. “As happens in relationships, you don’t always have the same attitude towards these things.”
“You don’t marry a ship captain and then say, ‘Well, I don’t like going out in the water.’ You’ve got to own what you knew going into any relationship,” he continued.
Despite their split, Affleck denied rumors that their end was due to their reported disdain for one another.
“There’s a tendency to look at breakups and want to identify root causes or something,” he said. “There’s no scandal, no soap opera, no intrigue. The truth is, when you talk to somebody, ‘Hey, what happened?’ Well, there is no, ‘This is what happened.’ It’s just a story about people trying to figure out their lives and relationships in ways that we all sort of normally do.”
Was Lopez Looking For A Rebound?
Following their split, rumors began to swirl that Lopez could’ve been linked to her “Office Romance” co-star, Brett Goldstein. However, a source said that there was never anything serious between them, and that Lopez only saw the actor as a “rebound.”
“She had fun with him, there’s no denying that, and she still thinks he’s a genuinely lovely guy, but it was never going to turn into anything serious for her,” the insider claimed. “She is someone who has a very clear vision for her life, she knows what it takes for a man to hold her interest long term and she doesn’t want to set anyone up for failure.”
